Do We Ever Grow Out of Needing Our Mommy?

A weekend with my parents was just what the doctor ordered.

Oh, Sunday’s, glorious Sunday’s…. and an extra special one at that, thank you clock change….I have so many things that I can rant about, and this is one of them. Just why?! Leave the clocks alone. Messing with it is just not helpful. Whoever came up with this idea definitely didn’t have children. I’m not as enraged as I was back in the day when I had babies and toddlers in the house, but it still just sets everything off kilter and it’s unnecessary.

Now that I got that off my chest and I want to celebrate.

My parents visited for the weekend and I’m sitting on the coach with all the feels (with my cup of coffee that started off hot and is now cold) having just said goodbye.

We had a wonderful cozy visit, no big adventures, no frills, just quality time. Thursday afternoon we strolled on Main Street for a bit, had a family dinner and my mom made challah with Chana Laya. What a treat (ya know it’s my least fave thing to do, although I do want to get more into it one of these days). Friday, I needed to be in the kitchen most of the day, but it was a fun time! Just having my mom with me (and helping, cuz she wouldn’t have it any other way) chatting, spending time, just in the same room, made the day so enjoyable. After Friday night’s Shabbos meal, hanging out with my parents and my sister, Brocha, and brother-in-law, Mendel, who also live here, chatting, laughing, was exactly what the doctor ordered. Shabbos morning, stealing a few minutes alone with my parents after everyone left to Shul was gold. These are the best moments. Then, having lunch at Shul with the community is always wonderful! My parents have been visiting us here for 18 years, so they have built so many friendships over the years, and it warms my heart!

We spent Shabbos afternoon playing games with the kids, and boy, did they soak up the quality time. Saturday night, we joined what our “younger division of the family” coined “Motzai Shabbos Fun Club.” I’m terrible at it, lol, not where I shine, but now that Brocha and Mendel live down the block, they’re in charge of MSFC (Motzei Shabbos Fun Club). We don’t do it all the time but when we have guests, they’re in charge, and they are the best at it! We had pizza and played a great game called Wavelength! I’m not a game person and I love it. We even got the Head Shliach of Montana to join. IYKYK :).

Which leads us to the end of this very short (not complaining but not not complaining if you know what I mean) visit! I went to teach Tanya in the morning while Bubby colored and played games with the kids and Chana Laya even got Zaidy to jump on the trampoline with her. We finished off the visit with a yummy brunch and goodbyes.

When I sat down to write I didn’t have the intention at all to share a full recap of the visit, but I think it’s what I needed. I was feeling kinda sad after they left and spending some time reflecting and recapping this very short but very sweet visit shifted me to a state of immense gratitude. I was joking with my mom on Motzei Shabbos and was like, “I’m forty-one years old and reverting to this little kid who needs their Mommy.” Do we ever grow out of it?!

Don’t think for a second that I take for granted how fortunate I am to have parents whom I love and with whom I get along B”H B”H. My husband’s mother passed away fifteen years ago, and I see firsthand how painful that is. I’m sending so much love to those of you who don’t get to have a relationship with your parents for whatever reason (and there are many). Being aware of the many different realities that exist keeps me focused and in a place of such gratitude for this part of my life.

Happy clock change folks!

Can’t wait for it to be dark at 4 pm.

Love,

Chavie